Happiness Revisited

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Man goes in search of that elusive entity called happiness. Rather it seems elusive to him as he keeps running after it. Whatever you chase, seems elusive. There is a weird sense of fulfilment in chasing after something that should come naturally to mankind. Happiness is a state of mind. It’s isn’t a goal.

We seek happiness for its own sake. We pursue things assuming that they would make us happy. Be it money, job or social status etc. all are hankered after in the pursuit of happiness.

Happiness doesn’t happen on its own. You have to prepare for it, cultivate it. It lives within you without your knowledge many a time. You have it in you to build for yourself. It doesn’t exist in some far off place. It’s within a single thought that dwells in your mind. You fail to grasp it thinking it lives elsewhere. You see it lives in you all the while. The funny part is you go look somewhere else whatever resides within you.

It never lay in any material objects ever outside you. It is there where you aren’t even looking. You never thought it always existed anyway even if you paid no attention. It never sought after your attention. It only wants you to realise its presence. Omnipresent everywhere.

You can’t seek happiness by consciously searching for it again and again. If you ask yourself whether ‘I am happy or not’ and believe it or not, you would stop being so.
How many of us are fully involved in every detail of our life whether good or bad ? Well you might find happiness by not trying to look for it directly.

Victor Frankl, the Austrian psychologist, said in the preface to his book Man’s search for Meaning, “Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. Just like happiness, it cant be pursued. It ensues as an unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.”

Happiness, the elusive goal. How to reach it by a direct route ? You cannot. It’s a circuitous path that begins with achieving control over the contents of your consciousness.
Our perceptions about our lives are the outcome of many forces that shape experience. Each of these have an impact on whether we feel good or bad. They are outside our control.

We don’t have a say over our looks, temperament or our constitution. We don’t choose our parents, place of birth or the circumstances under which we grow up.
But there is a time though rare, where instead of being buffeted by anonymous forces, we feel like we own our fate. A control over your actions. This leads to a sense of enjoyment, sense of exhilaration. This moment becomes a landmark in memory for what life should be like. This is known as an optimal experience.

A rarity yet a truth. A feeling the painter feels when the colors on his canvas have a magnetic tension against each other and produce a new living form astonishing its own creator.

What is the way to happiness ?
There is no way. Happiness is the way.

 

 

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Turning point

These are my self-composed quotations that can inspire you at any given phase of your life. Enjoy reading 🙂

 

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  • Why do you seek approval ? A songbird sings and ascends for himself. Joy fills his notes and elevates his wings.

  • Life is meaningful if you look for wonder in everything. Your interest in life sustains its essence.

  • We always wait for better time ahead forgetting that ‘Now’ is all the time you have and in your control.

  •  Life isn’t about a single moment of ‘Eureka’ or a great realisation. Many trivial and significant moments come together to create a hype called ‘life’.

  • Many useless incidences in life lead you to where you are today. Even though if you look back, they might have appeared to be really dreary, mundane and lifeless.

  • Fear is a figment of your imagination yet you give it fodder for survival. It dies the moment you disregard it and stop putting it on a pedestal.

  • Prayer isn’t a feeble consolation. It’s an honest dialogue with the universe.

  • Faith is the bird that makes you soar even with clipped wings.

  • Arguments with loved ones are about letting your ego vanish and mending the relationships than proving yourself right.

  • Patience begets wonders though it’s hard yet proves to be fruitful and develops your self-worth in times of desperation.

  • Optimism is the key to unlocking the latent potential in every being when he feels there is only a dead end.

  •  God is an abstract living being. He embodies the universe yet we relegate studying him solely within religions without seeing his omnipresence in daily life.

  • True love helps you grow into the person you always wanted to be without regressing your potential and making you stagnant in obsession over the beloved.

  • Look inside when things seem in disharmony outside. For your inner being manifests in the visible realm of life.

  • Who said you can’t grow in a muddied swamp ? Look at the lotus. The problems in your life are fuel for your growth. They are firewood that produce blazing warmth.

  • Man acts like he is the superior race on Earth. Yet unknown to him he acts second to an entity elsewhere.

  • A telescope can help you gaze at the stars. But only your internal heaven can make you bask in the moon’s glow.

  • The present moment is like Italics and it’s upto you to make it bold with your awareness and gratitude for being in it.

 

E-joker

How important is it to express our emotions?

 

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Declutter yourself, express yourself to improve the situation at hand not to worsen it.

It’s about mutual understanding not
imposing your emotions onto someone else.
Express gently even if feeling overwhelmed. Know when to stop. Over expressing kills the essence. Point is to convey the basic feeling not to exaggerate and overplay.
If you feel someone cannot understand your emotions, save it for a better purpose. Channelize your emotions towards a positive cause. When you express, ensure your emotions get the value they deserve else you’re better off without showcasing them. Show anger in the form of enthusiasm for a new project that you can work on. Redirect uncontrollable emotions towards things that breed positivity.

Affirm positive thoughts when you’re fuming.
Say, I am calm and a composed person when anger is trying to get the better off you. Never repress emotions as they tend to linger on for a long time. When an emotion lies unexpressed, it can explode at an uncertain time and unfavourable situation. Emotions are meant to be diffused else they override you.

They are like joker in a pack of cards. Sometimes they are of significant value and relevant. Whereas they can be misplaced during some difficulties. So the key is to know where to show and where to conceal them.

A joker is always smiling even its kept face down. Similarly our emotions may go dormant if we disguise it under a forced smile all the time. What if you had to smile even when you are feeling low ?
Emotions can become an e-joker when left unattended.
They exist for a reason. Show them but in a right way that seems assertive and not repulsive.

Faith rocks you

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When something bad happens, we lose hope or panic. Well don’t allow your immediate situation to make you feel low. You don’t have to despair or fret over everything.

If you look at the lives of famous personalities, they were far from perfection. Mahatma Gandhi was a mediocre student who was shy, timid and found it hard to talk to others. Who would think he would lead a nation ? Albert Einstein was not expert in all subjects except mathematics. Wilhelm Rontgen, the one who discovered X-rays was expelled from technical college because his classmates falsely implicated him for something they had done.
What do you think all these individuals have in common ? They never gave up on themselves no matter what.
Whatever suffering you endure definitely contributes in an unthinkable way to your growth in future.

No matter how many times you fail when your young, you got plenty of time you recover and get yourself back on course.
People who get poor grades, are bullied, betrayed by their close ones, fail, have to deal with illness or poverty have one thing at their advantage. They can easily understand others’ feelings and have deep insights about life.

So don’t let fear of failure let you from accomplishing something worthwhile.

He sees thru a microscope

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What goes amiss in curiosity ?

 

Man lacks a microscopic eye. No wonder he wasn’t born as a fly.
What’s point in having fine optical instruments to inspect minute species such as mites ? He can’t even comprehend something as majestic as the heaven and sky. He has learnt to study biological specimens but alas can’t appreciate larger-than-life creation above him. The skies that look below at him with compassion.
While you’re wondering how to understand the complex nature of things, you overlook simplicity around you.

 

Pretentious work

Samuel Taylor Coleridge the poet, says in Work Without Hope that he is the sole unbusy thing who watches by as all species in nature are preoccupied with their daily chores. Even the mundane is made extraordinary by other species. While man makes even work seem as idleness. Don’t you think he makes life complex than it actually seems ? He has introduced work to make himself sound superior. He is the most useless being on this planet yet he seems to acknowledge himself as the most productive.

Twinkle twinkle little star

Nursery rhymes always made us love the rhythm and simple things that made a poem. Like a star in the sky to a grandfather’s clock ticking in a house, everything contained awe in it as a child. As we grew up, we lost interest and started becoming too.
The universe is a procession. With measured and perfect motion, it sways. So doesn’t matter if you aren’t able to understand minute things around you as long as you have an eye for wonder and are able to look at everything with bewilderment.

Self-Discipline isn’t always tough

"He's very disciplined about his writing, three hours staring at a blank screen every morning and five in the afternoon."

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Self-discipline is often misinterpreted as difficult. It’s takes work but isn’t hard. Seth Godin says be specific towards setting goals. Make them measurable and realistic. Your goals are a starting point to stay disciplined.
If you clarify your vision, you would increase self-discipline by default.

 

When it comes to goal conflicts, self-discipline helps you. You can deal with it. You know how conflicts are hard to cope up with.
Self-Discipline isn’t emotionless.
It’s about understanding, interpreting and managing your own emotions. It isn’t about raw power.
Handle with grace. Iron-will and brute strength aren’t necessarily important for self-discipline. Though they make the path easier.
Any movie that shows the hero cultivate discipline to achieve his goal inspires us. Whether it’s a revenge based goal or proving one’s prowess in a wrestling arena, discipline speaks where you’re headed. Self-discipline is the beautiful art of understanding, interpreting and then managing your own emotions.
Self-discipline also isn’t about self-denial of anything that is good. There is nothing wrong in being self-indulgent once a while. Who wants a routine all the time ? It becomes boring. Actually when you are disciplined as a habit, it takes away the fun from whatever you do. There has to be a little change in a routine. If you don’t engage your heart and mind in an intentional way to guide the way you live, there is no point in being ‘self-disciplined’.
Your involvement in an activity comes to a halt, when you have to do it even if you have no mood to do so. Discipline is like drinking milk daily because you think it makes you healthy and you enjoy its taste. Routine is like drinking milk daily for reasons unknown. Habit is drinking milk daily when you have forgotten the true taste of milk.