Happiness Revisited


Man goes in search of that elusive entity called happiness. Rather it seems elusive to him as he keeps running after it. Whatever you chase, seems elusive. There is a weird sense of fulfilment in chasing after something that should come naturally to mankind. Happiness is a state of mind. It’s isn’t a goal.

We seek happiness for its own sake. We pursue things assuming that they would make us happy. Be it money, job or social status etc. all are hankered after in the pursuit of happiness.

Happiness doesn’t happen on its own. You have to prepare for it, cultivate it. It lives within you without your knowledge many a time. You have it in you to build for yourself. It doesn’t exist in some far off place. It’s within a single thought that dwells in your mind. You fail to grasp it thinking it lives elsewhere. You see it lives in you all the while. The funny part is you go look somewhere else whatever resides within you.

It never lay in any material objects ever outside you. It is there where you aren’t even looking. You never thought it always existed anyway even if you paid no attention. It never sought after your attention. It only wants you to realise its presence. Omnipresent everywhere.

You can’t seek happiness by consciously searching for it again and again. If you ask yourself whether ‘I am happy or not’ and believe it or not, you would stop being so.
How many of us are fully involved in every detail of our life whether good or bad ? Well you might find happiness by not trying to look for it directly.

Victor Frankl, the Austrian psychologist, said in the preface to his book Man’s search for Meaning, “Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. Just like happiness, it cant be pursued. It ensues as an unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.”

Happiness, the elusive goal. How to reach it by a direct route ? You cannot. It’s a circuitous path that begins with achieving control over the contents of your consciousness.
Our perceptions about our lives are the outcome of many forces that shape experience. Each of these have an impact on whether we feel good or bad. They are outside our control.

We don’t have a say over our looks, temperament or our constitution. We don’t choose our parents, place of birth or the circumstances under which we grow up.
But there is a time though rare, where instead of being buffeted by anonymous forces, we feel like we own our fate. A control over your actions. This leads to a sense of enjoyment, sense of exhilaration. This moment becomes a landmark in memory for what life should be like. This is known as an optimal experience.

A rarity yet a truth. A feeling the painter feels when the colors on his canvas have a magnetic tension against each other and produce a new living form astonishing its own creator.

What is the way to happiness ?
There is no way. Happiness is the way.




Turning point

These are my self-composed quotations that can inspire you at any given phase of your life. Enjoy reading 🙂



  • Why do you seek approval ? A songbird sings and ascends for himself. Joy fills his notes and elevates his wings.

  • Life is meaningful if you look for wonder in everything. Your interest in life sustains its essence.

  • We always wait for better time ahead forgetting that ‘Now’ is all the time you have and in your control.

  •  Life isn’t about a single moment of ‘Eureka’ or a great realisation. Many trivial and significant moments come together to create a hype called ‘life’.

  • Many useless incidences in life lead you to where you are today. Even though if you look back, they might have appeared to be really dreary, mundane and lifeless.

  • Fear is a figment of your imagination yet you give it fodder for survival. It dies the moment you disregard it and stop putting it on a pedestal.

  • Prayer isn’t a feeble consolation. It’s an honest dialogue with the universe.

  • Faith is the bird that makes you soar even with clipped wings.

  • Arguments with loved ones are about letting your ego vanish and mending the relationships than proving yourself right.

  • Patience begets wonders though it’s hard yet proves to be fruitful and develops your self-worth in times of desperation.

  • Optimism is the key to unlocking the latent potential in every being when he feels there is only a dead end.

  •  God is an abstract living being. He embodies the universe yet we relegate studying him solely within religions without seeing his omnipresence in daily life.

  • True love helps you grow into the person you always wanted to be without regressing your potential and making you stagnant in obsession over the beloved.

  • Look inside when things seem in disharmony outside. For your inner being manifests in the visible realm of life.

  • Who said you can’t grow in a muddied swamp ? Look at the lotus. The problems in your life are fuel for your growth. They are firewood that produce blazing warmth.

  • Man acts like he is the superior race on Earth. Yet unknown to him he acts second to an entity elsewhere.

  • A telescope can help you gaze at the stars. But only your internal heaven can make you bask in the moon’s glow.

  • The present moment is like Italics and it’s upto you to make it bold with your awareness and gratitude for being in it.



How important is it to express our emotions?



Declutter yourself, express yourself to improve the situation at hand not to worsen it.

It’s about mutual understanding not
imposing your emotions onto someone else.
Express gently even if feeling overwhelmed. Know when to stop. Over expressing kills the essence. Point is to convey the basic feeling not to exaggerate and overplay.
If you feel someone cannot understand your emotions, save it for a better purpose. Channelize your emotions towards a positive cause. When you express, ensure your emotions get the value they deserve else you’re better off without showcasing them. Show anger in the form of enthusiasm for a new project that you can work on. Redirect uncontrollable emotions towards things that breed positivity.

Affirm positive thoughts when you’re fuming.
Say, I am calm and a composed person when anger is trying to get the better off you. Never repress emotions as they tend to linger on for a long time. When an emotion lies unexpressed, it can explode at an uncertain time and unfavourable situation. Emotions are meant to be diffused else they override you.

They are like joker in a pack of cards. Sometimes they are of significant value and relevant. Whereas they can be misplaced during some difficulties. So the key is to know where to show and where to conceal them.

A joker is always smiling even its kept face down. Similarly our emotions may go dormant if we disguise it under a forced smile all the time. What if you had to smile even when you are feeling low ?
Emotions can become an e-joker when left unattended.
They exist for a reason. Show them but in a right way that seems assertive and not repulsive.

Faith rocks you



When something bad happens, we lose hope or panic. Well don’t allow your immediate situation to make you feel low. You don’t have to despair or fret over everything.

If you look at the lives of famous personalities, they were far from perfection. Mahatma Gandhi was a mediocre student who was shy, timid and found it hard to talk to others. Who would think he would lead a nation ? Albert Einstein was not expert in all subjects except mathematics. Wilhelm Rontgen, the one who discovered X-rays was expelled from technical college because his classmates falsely implicated him for something they had done.
What do you think all these individuals have in common ? They never gave up on themselves no matter what.
Whatever suffering you endure definitely contributes in an unthinkable way to your growth in future.

No matter how many times you fail when your young, you got plenty of time you recover and get yourself back on course.
People who get poor grades, are bullied, betrayed by their close ones, fail, have to deal with illness or poverty have one thing at their advantage. They can easily understand others’ feelings and have deep insights about life.

So don’t let fear of failure let you from accomplishing something worthwhile.

He sees thru a microscope



What goes amiss in curiosity ?


Man lacks a microscopic eye. No wonder he wasn’t born as a fly.
What’s point in having fine optical instruments to inspect minute species such as mites ? He can’t even comprehend something as majestic as the heaven and sky. He has learnt to study biological specimens but alas can’t appreciate larger-than-life creation above him. The skies that look below at him with compassion.
While you’re wondering how to understand the complex nature of things, you overlook simplicity around you.


Pretentious work

Samuel Taylor Coleridge the poet, says in Work Without Hope that he is the sole unbusy thing who watches by as all species in nature are preoccupied with their daily chores. Even the mundane is made extraordinary by other species. While man makes even work seem as idleness. Don’t you think he makes life complex than it actually seems ? He has introduced work to make himself sound superior. He is the most useless being on this planet yet he seems to acknowledge himself as the most productive.

Twinkle twinkle little star

Nursery rhymes always made us love the rhythm and simple things that made a poem. Like a star in the sky to a grandfather’s clock ticking in a house, everything contained awe in it as a child. As we grew up, we lost interest and started becoming too.
The universe is a procession. With measured and perfect motion, it sways. So doesn’t matter if you aren’t able to understand minute things around you as long as you have an eye for wonder and are able to look at everything with bewilderment.

Log onto Logomania

You might remember checking out the glossary section in your English coursebook as a kid. Everytime you didn’t know the meaning of a word in a poem or a story or an essay, you relied on ‘granny glossary’ to satiate your curiosity. Sometimes you would figure out the meaning of a word from the way it’s used.




Words are the clincher


Ultimately words aroused your curiosity. Be it slangs, mundane vocabulary or civil language, words make up conversations.
We use words without giving much thought to what we say. Do we actually mean it ? Or just blurting it all out ? Who cares ? That’s the approach.

The reason I love poets is because they make every word count. Every word matter. Every word has a steady purpose. It doesn’t get dissolved in your sight while you read in vain.

The first few lines of a poem by Alfred Lord Tennyson made me understand the feeling of a woman who has lost her husband in a war but is unable to lament out of disbelief.

It goes like..

‘Home they brought her warrior dead,
Nor she swooned nor she cried, All the maidens watching said, “She must weep or she shall die “.

The words are interwoven in such a way that they bring out the anguish of a widow during wartime. They also create an atmosphere of a funeral and how people react to the death of a loved one. No one cries initially out of shock, tears come welling in your eyes out of sheer pain.


Hook-up with the right word


Robert Penn Warren compares the motion of a flying hawk in one of poems to a honed steel-edge. Very carefully chosen phrase. No idea what he had in mind while crafting such a description yet it sounds apt.

Words can create your world and also allow you to transcend some misunderstandings.
Lutwig Wittgeinstein observed that we live in a world where we partake in a conventionally accepted language game. Whichever linguistic community that we are a part of accepts, we use those specific words to convey our thoughts and communicate our needs to each other.

Words have meaning only within a context. Nevertheless we all have a habit of using words just for sake and least care about their use. The meaning of a word is in its use. It ain’t what you say all the time that matters, it’s the way you say it and the context in which you say it to be precise.

Words become how you use them.
The roaring of two adult lions challenging each other for taking leadership of a pride is good enough as language gaming activity. If banter of two human rivals, attempting to outdo one another through wordplay is qualified as language, then why not lions asserting themselves ?

God is a word. People use ‘God’ in different ways. To some, even a sunrise could mean God. While others could just use the word to indicate fidelity to a way of life. The word ‘google’, has become a verb. It is synonymous with searching information on internet.


Entry-ticket into dictionary


There are three criteria for a word making it into the Merriam-Webster dictionary. Widespread usage of a word, “sustained use” and “meaningful use” serve as the pre-conditions for any word that is deemed suitable to be included in one’s vocabulary.

A Chicago teen by name Kayla Newman invented a phrase ‘on fleek’ which means ‘on point’. The term has been added to the urban dictionary.

Many of our decisions are arbitrary rather than well-thought out especially at the last moment. But the word arbitrary is hardly used by some out of the fear it might mean something too mathematical, like an arbitrary integer. People hesitate to use certain words out of assumption that they might be mistaken as being a verbal show-off.


Churn out the magic


Did you know that history drips in darkness like a leaking pipe in a cellar ? Well sounds really bizarre when you read or hear it for the first time but what an imagination and usage of words ? But it means that problems lie unfixed many a time while they plague you beneath all the ongoings of daily life. The past catches upto you while you’re trying to get a night of sound sleep.
The poet Robert Warren indeed knows how to nail this concept by comparing history to an untended dripping pipe in the basement.