Certain pursuits are meaningless..


“It is the preoccupation with possessions, more than anything else, that prevents us from living freely and nobly.”

Bertrand Russell


Every new possession brings new weariness. What you once wanted isn’t always going to keep you interested in it. Most desirable things are fleeting obsessions. They don’t necessarily live upto their ability to attract us indefinitely.


We focus on acquiring so much that we forget to sit back and enjoy what we already have.
You might be sipping a refreshing glass of Soft drink while wondering about the lack of money you have to get a Red Bull.
Even though you might not need it and you have quenched your thirst through a simple can of Coke.

Materialism is a distraction from true bliss indeed !
An instance of this realisation is how an object in possession seldom retains the same wonder that it had in pursuit. A gold necklace that you wanted at any cost loses it’s charm the moment it adorns your neck the umpteenth time. The object of your interest has an expiry date.

Is it really worth buying things when you know they are just a ‘in-the-moment-must-have-sensation’ ?

Disarrayed genius

“The purpose of art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls.”



A bunch of contradictory extremes. They aren’t individuals but they contain multitude selves. They exhibit tendencies of thought and action that seem to be segregated in most.

Creative people harness mindfulness and mind wandering abilities to

They aren’t dictated by a rigid inner structure but by what the interaction between them and the domain in which they’re working demands.

Factors that correlate to creativity:


The openness to novelty and new ideas, scenarios.


This is the drive for exploration. Traveling places never been before just out if curiosity and the need for something fresh is a symptom of this trait. Listening to a song and quoting its lyrics while conversing to your friend as an advice on how to let go of things you cant control.. constitutes this particular trait.


Ability to conform and be practical wherever required.


It’s one thing to have an idea and another to make it tenable (how well you can justify an idea of coming up with a new coffee chain that caters towards a zen atmosphere working space for freelancers)



Non-conformist mindset and the ability to be impulsive. Least bothered about being agreeable to others’ liking…

But any creative mind is a combination of the above three attributes. Our minds operate and switch between all the three ways of thinking.
The artist is a ‘receptacle for emotions.’

Sometimes you are just too closed and not willing to see that the idea cannot be executed. Its good to be adamant about your passions, but it can stop you from seeing beyond your perception.

Whereas at times the idea can be executed yet you wish to make changes. Don’t be too stuck of making something perfect and lose the essence.

The key is to be open to incorporating variations in your ideas and to make them flexible. If you wanna write a poem, then please do so and also be ready to tailor it for rhyme scheme, to make reading pleasurable.

Creative people are peculiar as they aren’t thrown back by complexity and ambiguity. Rather they welcome uncertainties and find them challenging.

Tricolor Self

What is ‘Easy to describe but maddening to decipher’ ?
The ‘Self’ obviously…

Stuart Hall, an acclaimed sociologist, divided the modern man’s identity in three specific aspects :

(I must say very much relatable owing to the conflicts I keep having my own self)

Enlightened self


We are all born with a firm inner core. Autonomous beings asserting ourselves for whomsoever we are.. Not susceptible to change by any external agent.. We can retain our original identity inspite of interacting with others. Nobody intimidates us at any cost.

Your values are intact even if they are being looked down upon by your peers as outdated and out of vogue.
For instance, you could care less about others being insensitive as the norm. You want to be a nice person to whomsoever you can. You feel being mean is something definitely not pleasant for your standards.

Sociological self


Our inner core can be modified by the society in which we live. One tends to internalise cultural values and traditions by default.
Our self is determined by our social interactions.
Reflexive beings who compare themselves to others inspite of having resolute principles of their own.
The comparison emerges unknowingly once one starts socializing and wants to participate in activities involving others.
An identity is always created with a purpose of being accepted by the society.

As we grow up, we nurture a looking-glass self. We understand ourselves based on the interpretation of then perception held by others about us.

Post-modern self


If the world demands you to portray your animal instincts, you lose humanity. If the society expects you to be considerate of animals and nature, you start pretending to be a naturalist.. You become what the society wants you to be.

Our self-referential point keeps changing according to the way we are represented or addressed in the society. Your self is subjected to so many changes that there is nothing fixed. A constant state of flux..
What breeds deep uncertainty, insecurity, and anxiety in these times ?
A theologian, Anthony Thiselton says its ‘loss of stability, loss of stable identity, and loss of confidence in global norms or goals’.

Every person has a gyroscope. A set of internal values that guide one’s life. But the problem is we no longer take cues from this inner guidance.

Ever-ready to conform yet don’t know what exactly to conform to.

I think of the concept of ‘Self’ as an illusion. I created it for my own benefit. It helps me to make sense of rational behaviour.

Our experiences create the ‘Self’. Just imagine an object’s centre of gravity.. It’s abstract not concrete. It’s not the actual thing.

Similarly, our ‘self’ isn’t real.

Coming up next week:

Being creative is donning multiple mindsets..

Adopting habits


I am reading a book called Pretty Girls by Karin Slaughter and I came across this term ‘Recidivism’ which means relapsing into criminal behaviour. This made me think it is quite relevant to mundane civilian behaviour as well…

Learning new Habits

We have a tendency to fall back into our old pattern of doing things. Adapting requires commitment and consistency.
Recidivism includes following old habits detrimental to our well-being. We are criminals for self-inflicting harm as well.
We do injustice to ourselves when we failto inculcate a new habit which adopted can drastically change our lives for the good.

Sometimes when I lose my ability to write regularly or atleast on alternative days, I feel I am a ‘recidivist’.
If not writing is a crime and I have convinced myself that I would write as regularly as possible, I allow myself a parole sometimes.

During the parole, I read a lot so that I feel motivated to write when I have to. A writer’s break shouldn’t be too long as the words become your adversary. They stop bumping into your mind and you fall short of them.

I allow myself to buy something really nice like a new pair of sneakers or pink chinos, so that I feel inspired to write in it.
They act like magic armour against laziness to write.
The parole ends once I know I can write on a regular basis without monitoring myself. It becomes natural to my day today existence.

I make it an addiction like shopping when you see something attractive. I see a book which has engaging language, I feel The compulsiveness to pen down few words.
I want to get addicted towards writing and I don’t want it to stop.

Just like we can chat for hours on whats app with our friends meaninglessly. Engaging in conversations that lead us nowhere, writing too need not lead you anywhere. I want to write for the pleasure of it and I act as if I’m talking to an imaginary friend.

A writing therapist named the ‘Sorcerer Supreme’ asked me to write from my realm to her in another realm.
Its only through writing I can talk to her. She lives in a realm where there is technology.
My digital words would be translated into ink once it reaches her through fax.

She said if I don’t write I stop living. I should write like my life depended on it. I need not make sense yet I must go on penning down.
For it is by writing, I slowly start to derive sense in this senseless being and world.

Learn to be naked with yourself !!

The intellectual and moral dangers of living among others and the value of solitude has always been a thought-provoking topic of discussion since ages.

Contrary to what Aristotle proposed in his Nicomachean Ethics that only a bestial man can flourish alone else he had to be god, solitude has been seen by many as virtuous to introspection and knowledge of the self.


Anglican clergyman Richard Cecil, states that “solitude shows us what we should be whereas the society reminds us of what we are.”

Frederich Nietzsche describes solitude as a necessary tool to the task of self-examination. He felt that it frees humans from temptation of thoughtlessly following the mob.

Montaigne stressed upon developing the ability to resist the temptation to mindlessly fall in with the opinion and actions of the mob.
We all nurture a desire subconsciously for the approval of other people. But this he compares to the attachment to material wealth and possessions.
As he feels, both passions diminish our sense of self. However he doesn’t say that we should relinquish them. He just says that we should be detached.

There is nothing wrong in enjoying and benefiting from others’ approval.
As long as you aren’t emotionally enslaved to them or become devastated if you were to lose them, it’s perfectly fine.
You can attain this stature only when you spend time with yourself and assess your private thoughts.


That peculiar sensation where you feel there are two versions of yourself dwelling inside you isn’t uncommon.


All of us view ourselves in two ways. The way we see ourselves through how others see us . Another way is through our own sense of self..

Du Bois coined the term ‘Double-consciousness’ in the backdrop of racism. “Two souls, two thoughts, two unreconciled strivings, two warring ideals in a dark body”. That’s how he defined the identity crisis of the ‘black’ people.

An African-American always wants to merge the gap between his own sense of self  and the lens through which the white pworld sees him, without being bleached by the white-supremacy. But the fissure in his identity makes it difficult to do so.

Similarly, we also aim to abridge the gap between how others judge us and how we perceive ourselves without letting our identity being superseded by the self-knowledge imposed on us by others’ biased perceptions.

Jovial spendthrift

While many might spend without bothering about the price tag or its utility. Others grimace even at the thought of expending a hundred rupees. All have our own concept of under or overpriced.


If you wanna be unconflicted in your spending lifestyle in future, click a snap of your purchases everyday to learn money management. You gotta see whether your money is vanishing into things you desire or just another ‘fleeting wants’ that can be overlooked the next time they emerge.

As long as you feel good about spending money on things that are valuable according to you, trust me it’s completely fine.

Here are the products I bought today..

A  vintage notebook for writing my blog drafts..


A deodorant and a perfume which emitted intoxicating aroma when I tested a sample..


A pair of matte finish nail polishes from YLG salon..


If you don’t spend money, whats the point in having it ?

Saving money also means making enjoyable expenses that also don’t burn a big hole in your pocket.

The next time you wanna buy something, go ahead with the decision without thinking too much as long as it isn’t compromising on the budget.

If you can accomodate it within your monthly means or weekly allowance, swipe your credit card happily or do away with those wad of notes you’re clinging onto as if your life depended on it.